Throughout our lives we move through different life stages. From child to adult, into parenthood, caring for dependents, divorce, stepping up into roles in our community or workplace.
Sometimes we can feel underprepared, stuck or in the dark. These thresholds are potent opportunities. Taking time to acknowledge our fears and see what qualities are being called for honours and anchors these transitions.
At any time you can ask yourself: At which threshold am I now standing? At this time in my life, what am I leaving? Where am I about to enter? What is preventing me from crossing my next threshold? What gift would enable me to do it? A threshold is not a simple boundary; it is a frontier that divides two different territories, rhythms, and atmospheres. Indeed, it is a lovely testimony to the fullness and integrity of an experience or a stage of life that it intensifies toward the end into a real frontier that cannot be crossed without the heart being passionately engaged and woken up. At this threshold a great complexity of emotion comes alive: confusion, fear, excitement, sadness, hope. This is one of the reasons such vital crossings were always clothed in ritual. It is wise in your own life to be able to recognize and acknowledge the key thresholds: to take your time; to feel all the varieties of presence that accrue there; to listen inward with complete attention until you hear the inner voice calling you forward. The time has come to cross.
Some life challenges are difficult but they help us develop aspects of our self, new qualities and inner strength. Therapy can help us gain perspective and support.
Other challenges can be utterly destabilising. Raising deep questions such as…Who am I? What is the point? Therapy can provide support with these feelings of loss, grief, depression and helplessness.